Change. And time.
Lisa Harris • 23 December 2016
I’ve just read a really life-affirming book by Matt Haig called “Reasons to Stay Alive”. Haig experiences panic disorder and depression, and the book is testament to the fact that time can heal.
In the book is a section called “How to live (forty pieces of advice I feel to be helpful but which I don’t always follow).” Here is one of them:
“38. Remember that the key thing about life on earth is change. Cars rust. Paper yellows. Technology dates. Caterpillars become butterflies. Nights morph into days. Depression lifts.”
This is, of course, all true. As an Alexander teacher, I know that sometimes the change happens more slowly than we wish – for example, we are striving to have less back pain, or a better posture. But, as sure as night follows day, if you allow yourself to be transformed by the Alexander Technique, you will be. That does mean you have to stop striving and allow it to happen … no easy task! And, of course, change can be like a pebble dropped in a pond – it ripples outwards and can change other things in life. We can’t change and stay the same, after all. And if we want our back pain gone, we do want to change!
“39. Just when you feel you have no time to relax, know that this is the moment you most need to make time to relax.”
As an Alexander teacher, I would substitute ‘active rest’ for ‘relax’. On starting Alexander lessons, I ask people to spend 10-20 minutes a day lying on their back with their knees bent up towards the ceiling. It’s often difficult to find the time to do this. But you have to proactively create the time – and when you feel you haven’t go the time, this is when it must be done!
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Alexander Technique and laptop use
